Happy New Year! Perhaps fitting, but this message is coming a bit late. Like so many out there, this time of year has seemingly approached so quickly!
Each new year, so many people (myself included at times!) set unobtainable goals, typically referred to as resolutions. Per definition, a resolution is a firm decision to do or not to do something. Well, isn’t that daunting? As a new year’s resolution, we are pressured with something referred to as a “firm decision.” Because of this pressure, too often people make lofty goals, do not obtain them, and by a few weeks into January feel negatively towards themselves and stop trying.
It is much healthier to make our goals small, measurable, and obtainable. I also recommend using the word “goal” rather than “resolution” -verbiage can be powerful to our mindsets!
Small: Work your way up! Establish the new behavior first, then challenge yourself to increase it. If you want to run a marathon, you would not start by running 26 miles!
Measurable: If you say your goal is to be more kind, what does that mean? If you give one compliment, have you met your goal? Give yourself measurable goals! If you’d like to be more kind, perhaps you can challenge yourself to volunteer in the community once per month, or to compliment at least one person when you go to the grocery store.
Obtainable: The classic example of working out; if you do not work out at all in 2023, you are not going to suddenly maintain a strenuous 5-6 day/week workout schedule in 2024. Maybe for 1-2 weeks we can, but inevitably we fall off and perhaps work out three times that week and feel like a failure. In 2023, we did not at all, but the third week in January 2024 we work out 3 times and are a failure? Tell me how this makes sense! You can always increase the goals as you show yourself you can stick to new behaviors and patterns!
Reflecting on 2023
Gratitude is a powerful thing! Even in times of struggle, there are things we can be express gratitude for. As we reflect on 2023, we are grateful for many things. Myself, I am grateful for expanding my practice from solo to a group, which allows the practice to offer more services to our community. As many know, many mental health providers have been solidly booked for years due to the pandemic, and, in part due to embracing telehealth, many remain this way. By having additional staff building caseloads, we are able to offer services more quickly. Plus, the variety of clinicians allows patients to be matched for a great fit- rapport is everything in our world!
Personally, I am grateful that after a huge health scare in March (including hospitalizations and a surgery), my sweet Roxy Belle is happy and healthy. Roxy is almost 15 years old, and I rescued her from a shelter when she was 2 months old- right in the middle of my doctoral program. We’ve had quite the adventures together, and I am so grateful we were blessed with a bit more time with her.
Morgan B., Morgan F., and Petrona all received their master’s degrees in clinical psychology at various points of 2023- quite the accomplishment! As one of their supervisors when they were students, I have seen so much growth and am proud of the clinicians they have become. In addition, Morgan F. offered that in 2023 she embraced the idea that she does not have to be a perfect mom; rather, to be humble and show her children how to handle mistakes because they are human too. A very important message- we are all fallible! After balancing so many tasks for so long, Morgan learned in 2023 that it is important to celebrate and take time to rest- such a good message for us all to embrace!
At Stanley Psychology, we are embracing the new year with more in-office offerings for appointments and new clinicians joining us. We are looking forward to a productive, supportive, and celebratory new year!